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So you are into this new relationship with a man and its a great feeling isn’t it? You’re always looking forward to the next time you can be together. You get butterflies in the stomach when he calls you on the phone. But how do you know that he’s telling you the truth and not just taking you along for a nice ride? Do you have doubts that he might be married? Here are some ways you can at least raise a flag and do some more investigation.

• If he has to leave everytime the phone rings there is a good chance he’s trying to hide something. Even if he gives the excuse of his boss calling, think about it. What’s so personal with his boss that he can’t take the call in front of you? Unless of course, his boss is female and is asking him to do some night shifts.
• If he mentions – Iam separated and going to get divorce any hour from now. He might be deceptive. Let me rephrase this, its not that he might be, but that he is deceptive. The best thing to do is walk out and ask him to get a copy of the divorce if he’s interested on a second date.
  If he shows up to your first date driving a Dodge Minivan. There better be a very compelling reason that he is driving one. Look out for stuffed toys or baby stuff in the car. But be wise in your judgement, if he drives a truck one day and a Corvette the next day, you better jump in the car.
• Ask for his home phone number. Although its not foolproof as many people are dropping the landlines in favor of cell phones. Still, this along with other factors can help you find out if he is hiding something.
• He only meet at wierd hours. Like he asked you to meet him at 7:00 am in a coffee shop or he meets you only on Tuesday and Friday. Though there could be factors like university and other obligations to make your meeting hours/days repetitive; this along with other indicators is a good sign he is not flexible with his schedule. Usually a guy would dump all obligations to keep up with his date.
• If you have some doubts just casually tell him you want to drop by his house. Now he comes up with an excuse to stop you from coming; that means only two things – Either he doesn’t own/rent a house and live with his parents or there is someone already taking care of his house. I think either way you don’t want to date this guy.
• When you call him at odd hours it almost always goes to his voice mail and then he calls back, specially at night and weekends. Think about it if someone consistently miss calls, its a fairly good indication that he is not comfortable taking calls at this time. Now if you recall I mentioned night and weekends which means he definitely is not at work, so there is no work excuse not to take calls.
• He is reluctant taking a walk in the mall or in the park or visiting a very popular restaurant and he’s rather more comfortable in secluded places or sitting in the car. This is a bright red sign that he’s married as he wouldn’t risk the chance of getting caught in public places.
• If he’s never around on holidays there is a good chance he is married. Holidays are to spend time with his family. He may meet you a day before or a day later but not on that day.

Lindsay Lohan Mugshot

Rumors are around that Lindsay underwent a cosmetic surgery to have fuller lips before entering the regional detention center. Now this is the kind of dedication Hollywood need today. Don’t let her actions fool you, she is smart as she knew her mugshot will be spread across the internet. Right now what she need is a movie like Shawshank Redemption – where she can serve jail time while shooting the movie.

Ho Hewitt Increased Ratings

In a desperate attempt to increase her ratings, Jennifer Love Hewitt switched roles from being a ghost talker to being a prostitute and voila she did it. The Client List on LifeTime brought in the ratings average of more than 3 million viewers. With her new JOB it seems people really liked her as a prostitute.

Now Papa Lohan in the News

As Lindsay is settling down to the quite life of Lynwood Regional Detention Center, Papa Lohan is making his own headlines. Its being reported that Michael Lohan’s fiance has claimed a domestic violence case against him. I have such high regards for this family. It must be a meticulous planning to make sure that the family gets the utmost attention from media.

Eat-Pray-Love

Its one thing loosing weight for movies as we saw Tom Hanks in Cast Away, Christian Bale in The Machinist, Wills Smith in Seven Pounds, but gaining weight (without special effects) for a movie, and that too by an actress, I call that DARING. Julia Roberts is stepping up to the plate by gaining about 7 pounds for the sake of the movie “Eat, Pray, Love,”. My advice to her – make best use of this time and hog, the media will blame it on the movie.

Donald Trump Suing Airport

When you have money you can sue anyone and anything. And I used to think you sue so you can make money, anyways Donald Trump has filed a lawsuit against the Palm Beach International airport to stop a planned expansion on the facility. Why? Because one of his luxurious homes where he spend a total of 14 hours in a year will be too closer to the airport. Next time you have a delayed flight to or from Palm Beach International airport, sue Donald – who knows he might give away the same luxury home away out of settlement.

MyDatingTree is a social date networking site that allow members to add people they are currently dating, share their dating stories, connect to friends and ex, see who is dating who among celebrities and search for people for dating and its FREE. Click here to register.

Through studies and experiments its proven any two people in this world can be connected by around six people. However the fun of celebrity dating is that it seems they date in circles, somehow everyone is linked to each other. Did you know that Paris Hilton can be romantically linked to Jessica Simpson just by 5 degrees of separation?

Paris Hilton Dated Jared Leto (2000)

Jared Leto Dated Cameroon Diaz (2003)

Cameroon Diaz Dated Paul Sculfor (2008)

Paul Sculfor Dated Jennifer Aniston (2006)

Jennifer Aniston Dated John Mayer (2008)

John Mayer Dated Jessica Simpson (2007)

Checkout the dating tree of these celebrities at www.mydatingtree.com. Do you know you can also create your own dating tree and check who is dating who among your friends and ex. We are still in BETA and are adding new features & fixing bugs. So go ahead and check it out and let us know what you think. Still have questions click here.

If you don’t know the secret “language” of attraction, getting the women you want is going to be a long, hard road. Here are 5 tips to boost your skills at attracting women:

Be Different & Original

What is the common thing that most men do when they ask women out? You guessed right its either a lunch, dinner or just coffee. Don’t try to fake it but try to be little different when you get together and offer to do things that she least expected. You don’t have to break your wallet to be different. For e.g. take her to the highest point in your town where you have a breath taking view of the sunset, take her on a bike ride to this eatery that has a fascinating story behind, invite her for “a walk for cause” events etc.

Make Sure You are the Driver

Women like men who stay in control and have a plan. Make sure you call her up and explain what’s the plan unless its a surprise. Don’t make her work by having to make decisions. Pick her up on time, let her know if she should wear anything specific. When you are there, let her sit back and relax and take care of everything. Aristotle said that – A sign of a mature man is forethought.

Don’t Make Yourself Look Needy

One of the reasons attractive women look so confident is because they know that they have plenty of options. When you know you can walk out the door any time, it makes you much more attractive to women. So take time and create options. The one thing that all men who really are successful with women have in common is that they all have a great lives of their own, and they don’t need a woman in their lives to be happy. So go and look for a hobby before you go hunting.

Keep Some Mystery

Many guys make the mistake of opening the pandora’s box right on the table when they meet someone they are interested in. Let them discover your accomplishments, they will be much more impressed rather than you narrating them. If you drive a Ferrari you don’t have to wear a shirt with the its logo or wear a Ferrari watch to show your affinity towards the brand – that’s pure cockiness.

Be Unpredictable & Make Her Earn It

Two biggest thing women long for in relationship – anticipation and excitement. Men often make the mistake of being too predictable and thus loose the spark. So the next time you said you will call on a day – skip the day and tell her you were busy with your work, invite her over to take her out for dinner and take her to movies instead. If you keep her guessing you won’t have any problem keeping her around.

Also there is an old saying – People don’t value things that they don’t work for. The same apply to romance and dating also. Make sure you are not the only one putting all the efforts in the relationship. Occasionally make her come over to pick you up, help you with small errands. More work she puts into the relationship, the more she will value it.

There was a research done by an online dating site and they released interesting analytics that demonstrate the set of rules for what you shouldn’t say when you are introducing yourself online.

The research looked at keywords and phrases and how they effected the response rates.

Show That You are Literate

You Wrote: Hey wazzup .. howz going ?

Bad grammar, spelling and net-speak (ur, ya, luv,wat, dat, u, cud) are almost always a huge turn-off. It also demonstrate your low level of maturity and doesn’t go well with people you don’t know. However while expressing amusement there are certain exceptions – its ok to use lol, ha ha till you keep the message grammatical and punctuated.

Its Early For Physical Compliments

You wrote: I saw ur profile and u look gorgeous

This is more directed at guys as they are more likely to talk about looks. Make sure your choice of words to compliment are more general – cool, nice, pretty, great. People normally like compliments however when they are part of pick-up lines before you have met in person, its becomes a little cheesy.

Be Creative With Your Greeting

You wrote: Hey how’s it going?

The way you choose to start your first message is actually the first impression of your first impression. Research indicates its smarter to use no traditional salutations and write straight away whatever you have to start. So instead of a – hi, hello. The more informal greetings – what’s up, howdy set a more casual tone and most people prefer that way.

Bring Up Specific Interests

You wrote: Hi there I read your profile. Do you know ‘Three Doors Down’ is playing downtown next week?

Talking about specific things that you might have in common with someone is a great way to make a connection. Its even more effective when you use phrases that engage the reader’s own interest or indicate that you have read their profile. The following graph obtained from okcupid is an excellent example -

Become an Atheist, It Helps

You wrote: Just to let you know I am a hardcore atheist

If you follow a religion that is fine but it helps you most if you have no religion. No offense against any religion but that’s what the research indicates. The following is another graph obtained from okcupid that indicates being atheist does help get the attention -

Some argue that an emotional affair is harmless because it is more casual than traditional cheating; however, the intimacy of the communication, and the emotional energy invested by the people involved, places an emotional affair on the same level  as traditional cheating or sometimes even worse. Now a days its good to have intimate chat transcripts to file for a divorce on the grounds of infidelity.

Emotional cheating starts when people misunderstand the fundamental rules of marriage. The following are some of the typical signs of emotional affair and are the bright red flags telling you to immediately apply your brakes -

• You enjoy sharing jokes and gossip with friends or colleagues of the opposite sex, instead of your partner.
• You spend as much time and energy buying the right gift for a friend or colleague of the opposite sex as you do for your partner.
• You prefer to discuss your work and sometimes even personal problems thoroughly at work with colleagues of the opposite sex, leaving out your spouse.
• You are enjoying having long lunches or after work drinks with colleagues of the opposite sex – and you seldom talk business.
• You pay extra attention to how you look before you see him or her in the office.

In “Emotional Infidelity: How to Avoid it” Gary Newman  says that emotional cheating is caused by squandered emotional energy and the following are some of the common mistakes that often lead to emotional infidelity -

• Couples no longer focus on their marriage and partnership after children are born.
• Couples try to keep an emotional distance because they don’t wish to have any need of their partner that much.
• Couples spend too much of their emotional energy on people outside their marriage – parents, colleagues, friends etc.

While it is very normal and healthy for people to have friendships outside the marriage with men and women, an emotional affair threatens the emotional bond between spouses, and nothing is more harmful to a marriage than the breakdown of the emotional bond couples have for each other.

So you have checked and double checked on your outfits, cologne, perfume, wallet etc. etc. and you are ready. So is it a job interview? wedding? No. Its the prep work right before your first date.

There is no guarantee that your date night will go as you planned but then, you can certainly avoid disaster if you decide not to do the following -

Places To Avoid

Sports Event

A sports venue is no place for a love connection unless your date share the same passion of – painted face, beer mugs and screaming at the referee. Many girls find it unattractive and you might spoil your chance for a second date, while showing off your sporting spirit.

Bar

You must have realized when you are drunk the world looks way too colorful and everything you say seem so cool and funny, well only to you ofcourse. There are many things that can go wrong – your date can start hitting on someone, you get drunk and spill all your secrets or the worst you may call her with some other name. So try not to wear you beer-goggles on your first date, because when they wear off it often leaves a dirty trail.

Beach

Although the thought of a date on a beach sound very romantic, you should avoid going on a first date. Why? Well it can actually be very intimidating for a lot of people to get dressed in a bathing suit in front of their first date and be seen in such a little amount of clothing. You want to avoid any situation which may make you or your date uncomfortable.

Family Functions

Other places that you will definitely want to avoid during a first date are family functions – like weddings, family reunions. The reasoning behind this is that even though one person will feel completely at ease  and comfortable being around their family, it puts a tremendous amount of pressure on the other person for a first date. You want to avoid adding a stressful situation to your evening’s agenda. You must understand the person you are out with already feels enough stress just going out with you for the first time; it will be very uncomfortable for them to feel as if they now have to make a good impression on your entire family at the same time.

Foods To Avoid

Spicy Food

If you eat food spicy enough to burn your intestine, thats cool, but make sure that your date does, too. Eating ethnic/spicy food might be an adventure, but then you run the risk of ending up in a physically uncomfortable spot before the end of the night. Remember the movie ‘Along Came Polly‘.

Allergy Stimulating Food

Remember the movie – Hitch. Thats right you don’t want to try yourself or take your date out to some exotic place where you have no idea what the food is made up of. Because I am sure you don’t want to look into the mirror and scream ‘Shrek‘.

Things to Avoid

Being Late

Do all the necessary preparations ahead of time. If you try out 15 pairs before deciding what to wear then I suggest that a night before, choose your outfit. So, that you won’t hurry dressing up for your date. You don’t want your partner to see you wearing the wrong pair of earrings. Make sure that when your guy knocks on your door, be careful not to cram. Having your date stand for 15 minutes on your day is definitely not a recipe for a second date.

Singing your break-up history

Make sure before you go out on a date you have buried your past in cement. Nobody want to hear you sour grape over your most recent break-up. You have your friends who can offer their shoulder to cry on, don’t look forward for that in your new prospect. Instead of dwelling in the past, know this new guy in front of you more. Ask him about his stuff like – what he does, his kind of sports, hobbies, interests and more until such time you arrive at your common interest.

Appearance

There is a reason when they say – ‘First impression, is the last impression‘. You are out looking for a date so don’t make your date run away from you because you look like the character from ‘Planet Of The Apes‘, and your breath stinks like garbage. Be on your best attire. Look good and smell fresh. That way, you can captivate his attention the entire time you are together.

Short of words

Don’t let your date ask you where your mouth is because you cannot think of anything to say. If you notice your date is having a good time discussing her menu with the waiter than talk to you, you better think fast what to talk otherwise you will have very quite night. Let him get to know you better. Tell him what you do on your work, on your free time, your favorite activities, sports and stuff.

Do you know that majority of the communication that goes on between two people is non-verbal, and we tend to ignore the most basic signals that people send out. Think of body language  more as road signs. Few weeks back we covered body language indicating that the guy you are with, might be lying. Today lets look at indicators that will tell you if the girl sitting across the table is really interested in you.

Mirroring

Also called physical mirroring, this term describes how people tend to copy the behavior of a person that they are attracted to. You may not know but you probably have been doing it all your life without knowing. Have you noticed people who seem to have engaged in an interesting conversation also seem to have a harmony with respect to their body posture and pose, all of it happening subconsciously. Having someone similar in your vicinity creates a feeling of ease, protected and being understood. The next time you want to test this, do this – look at her briefly for few seconds then look down at your watch for few seconds and the look back at her. If you see her fidgeting with her watch or looking at her watch its a good indication that she might be interested in you.

Eyebrow Flash

The very first signal someone send out indicating that they are attracted is the eyebrow flash. Although when people meet each other it is also common to raise the eyebrows slightly before bringing them to their original position, this is also a way of saying hello. However when you are introduced to a new person and the flash lasts a second or two longer, its a good indication that she is interested in you.

Self Touching

Women have more nerve sensors for experiencing touch than men that make then more sensitive to touch sensations. If you see the woman is lightly stroking or touching their arm or hand, while keeping an eye contact this can be an unconscious signal that she is interested in you.

Grooming

Grooming acts include moving hair that is in front of her face with either a head movement or by using her hands. If you notice that the woman smoothes down her hair, adjust her clothing, brushes her hair with her hands, licking her lips and teeth or putting on lipstick or gloss, these are all signs which show that she cares about putting her best self to impress you.

Flirting Triangle

When we look at people we are not familiar with our eyes tend to make a ziga zag motion. With people we know better we include the nose and mouth to create small triangle. Once we start flirting the triangle gets bigger and it widens at the botton to include their body. If you notice a woman watching your mouth while you are talking to them, it is a good indication that she is very much interested in you and you can make a move.

The next time you are with a group of people notice for these subtle indicators, you don’t have to play the guessing game any more, you already know the tricks of the trade.

With world cup soccer starting in just a day the football fever is picking up all around the world, the feds gave BP until Friday to devise contingency plans for the continued collection of gushing oil in the event of a bad weather and princess Diana’s dress fetches more than $270,000 at an auction and the following are the top 5 celebrity gossip in the last 24 hours -

Larry King’s Wife Recovering From Pill Overdose

Have you noticed off late how the quality of one time popular Larry King live is degrading. It seems he is running out of people to interview and now a days anyone who make headlines can make it to Larry King live.

Larry King’s wife Shawn King is currently recovering from an apparent prescription drug overdose. She was discovered by her father in her home in Provo, Utah. Seems she couldn’t stand his programs any more.

JUSTIN Bieber Thrown out of movie theater

It seems the media is not doing a good job in making Justin Bieber more popular. He was kicked out of a theater for trying to sneak into the premium seating. If you are wondering who is Justin Bieber, I don’t blame you. I came to know about him few days back he is supposedly the next sensation in the music world.

The 16 year old also has a secret, he admitted he loves to google & youtube himself. Wondering if he also write e-mail and fan letters to himself?

Jennifer Love Hewitt Sees Herself as Wonder Woman

Tired of whispering to ghosts the ‘Ghost Whisperer‘ star says she is obsessed about playing the superhero on the big screen. She think Warner Bros is getting ready to make a Wonder Woman and Sandra Bullock & Beyonce are some of the big names who are the other prospects.

Lindsay At MTV Awards

Seems either her sparky jumpsuit blinded the security or they faied to recognize her and she landed on the red carpet at the MTV awards. What was she doing there? Well to make sure that she is seen in different award ceremonies it doesn’t matter if its not related to her career. Now someone please send her the venue for the upcoming Nobel, World Food, Balzan & Wolf Foundation prize ceremonies.

Cameron Diaz Might Adopt Some Kids!

After admitting that “lots of sex” keep her skin glowing and looking young the 37 year old actress recently told the Cosmopolitan maganize that – “I could end up adopting half a dozen kids … who the f**** knows”. That is what happens when you do your own publicity, you just run out of ideas of what to say.

Through studies and experiments its proven any two people in this world can be connected by around six people. However the fun of celebrity dating is that it seems they date in circles, somehow everyone is linked to each other. Did you know that Edward Norton can be romantically linked to Matt Damon just by 5 degrees of separation?

Edward Norton Dated Cameron Diaz (1998)

Cameron Diaz Dated Jared Leto (2000)

Jared Leto Dated Scarlett Johansson (2003)

Scarlett Johansson dated Josh Harnett (2006)

Josh Harnett dated Penelope Cruz (2006)

Penelope Cruz Dated Matt Damon (2000)

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